When we are hurting, it can be difficult to lean in and face the pain. Oftentimes, we just want to avoid it and hope it goes away. And then our minds run wild with judgments and stories about the past and the future. In the present moment is where we can unlearn our patterns and learn lessons. If we choose to be curious about what is hurting within ourselves and question the pain, the experience can shift from heartache to healing. Sure, it may feel excruciating. It can also be illuminating. You begin to understand rather than replay. This experience is unique for each individual as well as possible for each individual.