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Lose the “What If,” Be Your Truth
“What if” looks smart, but most days it’s fear in a lab coat—endless scenarios that delay who you already are.
“What if I fail?”
“What if I disappoint them?”
Maybe. But the bigger cost is abandoning yourself in small increments—editing your voice, shrinking your wants, rehearsing other people’s expectations until they sound like your own.
Truth is simple. Not easy—simple. It says: This is me. This is what I value. This is where I’m going. Alignment is the work: let your choices match your values, one ordinary action at a time.
The loop vs. the move
“What if” is a loop that feels like motion. Truth is a move—often quiet and unglamorous: send the email, ask for what you need, leave the room that keeps you small. You don’t need universal approval; you need internal agreement.
Permission to outgrow
Old versions of you got you here; they can’t take you further. Let them retire with gratitude. Outgrowing isn’t betrayal—it’s loyalty to your life.
Seven-day micro-practice
Morning: “Today, my truth is…”
Before noon: one small action that expresses it.
Night: “I honored my truth by…”
That’s it. No theatrics, just practice. Integrity returns the energy worry steals.
Your Path
In the midst of life's chaos, it's easy to feel adrift, as if you're wandering without a map or destination. You're not alone—many of us embark on this journey of personal growth seeking clarity and inner peace, yearning to transform confusion into self-discovery.
Embracing the Journey
The path to personal healing is a transformative adventure, filled with opportunities for growth and self-discovery. As we embark on this journey, we'll explore the essence of self-discovery and uncover various pathways to personal growth.
Discovering Self-Discovery
Self-discovery is the cornerstone of personal healing, a process that involves peeling back layers of our identity to reveal our authentic selves. It's a journey that requires courage, curiosity, and compassion.
Natural Aromas describes self-discovery as "a journey of inner healing and personal growth." This process often begins with introspection, asking ourselves deep questions about our values, beliefs, and aspirations.
As we delve deeper, we may encounter challenges and resistance. These obstacles are not roadblocks but opportunities for growth. Embracing them with an open mind can lead to profound insights and personal breakthroughs.
Remember, self-discovery is not a destination but an ongoing process. It's about continuous learning, adapting, and evolving as we navigate life's complexities.
Pathways to Personal Growth
Personal growth is the result of intentional efforts to improve ourselves, expand our capabilities, and enhance our quality of life. There are numerous pathways to achieve this growth, each offering unique benefits and challenges.
One effective approach is mindfulness and meditation. These practices help us cultivate awareness, reduce stress, and gain clarity. As highlighted in this book, embracing inner peace is a crucial step in the self-discovery journey.
Another pathway is continuous learning and skill development. This could involve formal education, reading, or pursuing new hobbies. Each new skill or piece of knowledge contributes to our personal growth and expands our perspective.
Relationship building and social connections also play a vital role in personal growth. As Harvard research suggests, meaningful relationships are essential for a fulfilling life. Engaging with diverse perspectives challenges our assumptions and fosters empathy.
Lastly, as emphasized in this transformative approach, self-love and acceptance are crucial pathways to personal growth. By nurturing a positive relationship with ourselves, we create a strong foundation for ongoing development and healing.
Overcoming Obstacles
Embracing Your Healing Journey
The path to personal growth and self-discovery is unique for everyone. This section explores how to start your healing journey, overcome challenges, and use life coaching techniques to foster growth.
Finding Your Starting Point
Embarking on a healing journey begins with self-awareness. Take time to reflect on your current situation and identify areas where you want to grow. This process can be both exciting and daunting, but it's crucial for setting the foundation of your journey.
Start by journaling your thoughts, feelings, and aspirations. This practice can help you uncover patterns and insights about yourself. Mindfulness meditation can also be a powerful tool for increasing self-awareness and connecting with your inner self.
Consider seeking support from a trusted friend, family member, or professional. Sometimes, an outside perspective can provide valuable insights and help you see things from a different angle.
Overcoming Obstacles
On your healing journey, you'll likely encounter obstacles. These challenges, while difficult, offer opportunities for growth and self-discovery. Recognizing and addressing these hurdles is essential for moving forward.
Common obstacles include:
Fear of change
Self-doubt
Negative self-talk
Past traumas
To overcome these obstacles, practice self-compassion and patience. Remember that healing is a process, not a destination. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) techniques can be helpful in reframing negative thoughts and developing healthier coping mechanisms.
Surround yourself with supportive people who encourage your growth. Sometimes, letting go of relationships that no longer serve you is necessary for your healing journey.
Life Coaching Tips for Growth
Life coaching can provide valuable guidance and support on your healing journey. These tips can help you maximize your personal growth and self-discovery:
Set clear, achievable goals: Break down larger aspirations into smaller, manageable steps.
Practice gratitude: Regularly acknowledge the positive aspects of your life to foster a growth mindset.
Embrace discomfort: Growth often happens outside your comfort zone.
Positive affirmations can be powerful tools for rewiring negative thought patterns. Create a list of affirmations that resonate with you and repeat them daily.
Remember to celebrate your progress, no matter how small. Each step forward is a victory on your healing journey.
Authenticity Is Not Perfect
We are not perfect. We are perfectly imperfect. Whichever you subscribe to or don’t, please consider this: your authenticity is about truth and expression not perfection.
Love Your Story
Sometimes we feel need courage to say, to act, to be. I’d ask if you feel the love to say, to act, to be?
Differences And Learning
You can build walls of fear to hold out what you don’t understand or agree with. Or your can open the window to your soul, the door to you heart and listen, let in, and learn.
S2E8 : How About Resisting?
How we think about our lives influences how we feel about our lives. How we talk about our lives to others and to ourselves affects our mood, our outlook, and our sense of self-worth. The beautiful thing is, we can control how we think and talk about our lives!
Freedom
To feel free is to release the self-imposed restraints of what others may think or say about your truth. Your truth is yours to accept and nurture. Hiding your truth in the dark drains energy which could be used for self-healing, self-forgiveness, self-love, and self-expression. Your truth is worthy of the light.
A Love In Progress
Shift your mindset. See all that you do and all that you are as a love experience. Too often, we limit what we can do and who we can be, because we label it as work. It may sound like word play, but think about you “feel” when you are forever referring to learning, healing, adventuring, or changing as work.
Perhaps when it comes to your well-being, it’s less about putting in the work and more about putting in the love.
The Lounge Podcast - Ep.2 Where Are You?
Episode 2 is HERE!!!!
This time around I chat about how a pandemic might be a good time for self-reflection.
The Lounge Podcast Ep. 1 - Are You Ready?
Tune in for my first episode on my newly launched podcast, The Lounge!!!!
In this episode, I chat about being “ready”, how our brains like to overprotect us, and changing your mindset from, “What will happen?” to “What can I learn?”
It's Always New
The new year brings a level of awareness for those of you who were not so aware during the previous year. You share resolutions. You pledge changes. You proclaim a rebirth is at hand.
That newness is available in every moment you get to experience. Every moment is brand new. No moment has ever been before.
This means, you experience a new year in every moment!
What are you going to do with this moment?
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Moments of awareness shared with you
Life is the experience. Of course, our choices influence the experience. How we perceive it affects the experience. How we feel about our life experience is on each of us to explore.
People so often misunderstand and ultimately, become jaded, about how much YOU determine what your life experience will be. The work, meditation, praying, positive thinking, law of attraction. vibration, visualizing, etc. are all means to discover and move through the life experience.
The great majority of us will go through the the end of a relationship. And all of us will witness the loss of a loved one. It’s not about avoiding such happenings or pretending they do not evoke strong emotions within us. It’s all about the choices we make to accept, to learn from, and to move through them. Those are the times when we can, very much so, affect, influence, shift, our life experience.
Feeling pain? What are you doing to heal? Feeling stuck? What are you doing to grow?
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Moments of awareness shared with you
You don’t heal by denying how you feel. You don’t heal by pretending you don’t feel what you feel. You don’t heal by forcing yourself to feel one way or another.
You heal by facing your hurt. By sitting with your pain. By grieving. By doing the work to honor what has happened and how you feel. By taking healthy steps in times of anguish and frustration. By accepting the ups, downs, and swirls of hurt. By reaching out and going within. By crying. Screaming. Sleeping. Breathing. Reflecting, Meditating or praying. Going to counseling, therapy, coaching. By doing whatever is necessary for you to engage, feel, and walk through the hurt. No timeline. Be patient.
You can feel and heal.